WHY SOMETIMES YOUR NEW YEARS RESOLUTIONS AND NEW YEAR GOALS NEVER WORK AND HOW YOU CAN CHANGE THAT AROUND
This morning I went on my first walk for the New Year why not on a Sunday, no time like the present. Often on my walks I gain a lot of insights about life and learnings I have done in the past, helps me process the thoughts and ideas in my head ;-) Today I was thinking about why some people get so excited about the new year they plan to make some big positive changes with lots of goals and their can be a lot of enthusiasm and fresh inspiration happening which is great! But then something happens.........2 weeks down the track, maybe sooner or maybe a bit longer all depends - something happens - actually a few different possibilities can happen so see if you can relate to one of them... 1. One possible thing that can happen is you set yourself some very high expectations, goals, and big dreams and at the time writing them sounded amazing and exciting but then as you get going in your year you realise you have no strategy plan of how to create those goals and dreams! if you have no strategy sometimes you can feel totally overwhelmed and give up before you even start this is especially true for the more bigger goals, or possible challenge 2: you create all your goals - but your values aren't truly in alignment with the goals you set, they are goals you think you want, but do you actually really truly want them? This is why I recommend having your values illicitated and yes I coach people on electing their values just saying ;-)
or 3. You have set ways too many goals in all different areas of your life thinking your going to change many areas of your life at once - Then as you get going you realise just how hard that can be, not know where to start and feel confused and overloaded! Because the unconscious mind has its already set of habits, strategies, beliefs, values, programs, ways of doing things in it's current map of the world, it has been programmed to do what you have currently been doing for so long now, that when you go and try to change your internal map of reality whether that be changing habits, strategies, values, or just doing things completely different new way than you have been in the past - what can happen is resistance and overwhelm can take place! Because even though your changing areas of your life is for the better and your highest good, your unconscious still asscociates the old paradigm, the old way of doing things with SAFETY! thats right it thinks the old way is safest because it is what its been programmed to do up till now and the unconscious mind doesnt like change very much ;-) hence this is when resistance and fear often comes in and often overwhelm at times when your trying to make new positive changes in your life and reprogramming your unconscious mind and why after a while people just go back to their old programming doing their old behaviours, habits, strategies etc because it is familiar and the unconscious mind likes familiar! it is a funny thing the unconscious mind but once you know how it works it helps making change easier.
Therefore- When it comes back to Goal Setting and to move past the resistance and old programming, I really feel its important to make one small change at a time, or focus on perhaps just 1 or 2 main things you would like to focus on and change in your life to start with, instead of 10,20,30 different goals, just focus on a couple, this will create less overwhelm giving the mind less sensory input and information to process at once so the mind can handle the new changes with less resistance to creating the new, and when you are clear on for example 2 of your main goals, then stick to those ones until you have accomplished them, before moving on to other ones, this will increase the chances of actually achieving your goals provided they are somewhat realistic to you and something you feel you can actually accomplish, hence it might be a good idea to make it a goal within reach of say 12 weeks, so it is not stretched out to far and gives you something to focus on fully and stay enthusiastic about
Julia xo
www.juliahuzziff.com there
This morning I went on my first walk for the New Year why not on a Sunday, no time like the present. Often on my walks I gain a lot of insights about life and learnings I have done in the past, helps me process the thoughts and ideas in my head ;-) Today I was thinking about why some people get so excited about the new year they plan to make some big positive changes with lots of goals and their can be a lot of enthusiasm and fresh inspiration happening which is great! But then something happens.........2 weeks down the track, maybe sooner or maybe a bit longer all depends - something happens - actually a few different possibilities can happen so see if you can relate to one of them... 1. One possible thing that can happen is you set yourself some very high expectations, goals, and big dreams and at the time writing them sounded amazing and exciting but then as you get going in your year you realise you have no strategy plan of how to create those goals and dreams! if you have no strategy sometimes you can feel totally overwhelmed and give up before you even start this is especially true for the more bigger goals, or possible challenge 2: you create all your goals - but your values aren't truly in alignment with the goals you set, they are goals you think you want, but do you actually really truly want them? This is why I recommend having your values illicitated and yes I coach people on electing their values just saying ;-)
or 3. You have set ways too many goals in all different areas of your life thinking your going to change many areas of your life at once - Then as you get going you realise just how hard that can be, not know where to start and feel confused and overloaded! Because the unconscious mind has its already set of habits, strategies, beliefs, values, programs, ways of doing things in it's current map of the world, it has been programmed to do what you have currently been doing for so long now, that when you go and try to change your internal map of reality whether that be changing habits, strategies, values, or just doing things completely different new way than you have been in the past - what can happen is resistance and overwhelm can take place! Because even though your changing areas of your life is for the better and your highest good, your unconscious still asscociates the old paradigm, the old way of doing things with SAFETY! thats right it thinks the old way is safest because it is what its been programmed to do up till now and the unconscious mind doesnt like change very much ;-) hence this is when resistance and fear often comes in and often overwhelm at times when your trying to make new positive changes in your life and reprogramming your unconscious mind and why after a while people just go back to their old programming doing their old behaviours, habits, strategies etc because it is familiar and the unconscious mind likes familiar! it is a funny thing the unconscious mind but once you know how it works it helps making change easier.
Therefore- When it comes back to Goal Setting and to move past the resistance and old programming, I really feel its important to make one small change at a time, or focus on perhaps just 1 or 2 main things you would like to focus on and change in your life to start with, instead of 10,20,30 different goals, just focus on a couple, this will create less overwhelm giving the mind less sensory input and information to process at once so the mind can handle the new changes with less resistance to creating the new, and when you are clear on for example 2 of your main goals, then stick to those ones until you have accomplished them, before moving on to other ones, this will increase the chances of actually achieving your goals provided they are somewhat realistic to you and something you feel you can actually accomplish, hence it might be a good idea to make it a goal within reach of say 12 weeks, so it is not stretched out to far and gives you something to focus on fully and stay enthusiastic about
Julia xo
www.juliahuzziff.com there
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